Uncertainties of life

People

do not know

it all.

Nobody knows

anything for sure.

They just take the next best step.

In the direction that seems worthy.

Own it.

When it comes to life

It all feels confusing

There are choices at every step-

Professional choices

Personal choices

Many a times, we don't know what to choose

Sometimes, we don't want to choose

But I guess what is important

Is to know

That we are empowered enough

to make our own choices

All we need to do - is own it.

Ah, love!

I might not be the best person to talk about love.

Perhaps, I see love in a very pure form (it even feels nun like at times!)

Some think I am whimsical by Worldly standards. Some think I'm naive.

But now that I am in an age where most of my friends are already married and have kids,

I guess it's high time, I gave it a serious thought...and hopefully, find another bird like me

who I'd be happy to share my nest with.

Love- what is love?

Is it a fantasy?

Is it for real?

Is it companionship?

Or is it romance?

Is it concern ?

Or is it the ease of being together...?

I wonder.

And though love meant different things at different time zones; at my stage- love is more about joy of togetherness more than anything else. Someone who gets you, who supports you, who is ready to build with you. Someone, who is okay with your flaws...and happy about your presence. Someone, who inspires you and feels inspired by your aura. Someone who can help you grow on with the ups and downs of life happily.

It's not the kind of love that we fantasise about in our adolescence. A knight in shining armour kind of imagery. We all have to come to our own rescue eventually. It's more about- stability, trust and faith. It's more about a team that is ready to face things together- through thick or thin.

It's funny. How much I want friendship when it comes to love. And yet, love is not friendship alone. It's a complete package of all sorts of crazy feelings that end up with a sense of belonging and trust. Most of my " guy friends" have stayed much confused over my weirdly neutral stance. Some think, I am high headed, play hard to get, have some sort of defences built up, have a high melting point or am too selective. But come on, this objectivity stems out of my life experiences , observation and wisdom about my own self that cannot handle an uncomfortable relationship.

We are talking about choosing life partners here, not clothes...so better be selective about it!

The confusing part is you meet many good friendly people and you do get attached. You even start liking and loving... You don't wanna let go and yet, something inside you tells -it's not quite right. Call it intuition, wisdom or destiny. Never can all the things click right. Sometimes, it's the personality, sometimes, social factors, sometimes, different goals that tear people apart.

Then , what should be the criteria to choose a suitable mate?

Are we looking for intellectual, emotional and physical compatibility? Or are we looking for security and status?

Maybe it's an individual choice to make.

As for me, I'd like to be a free bird...and can only hope another free bird will come choose me!

And then we fly....TOGETHER :)